All posts by Elah

#65: Tell Me Everything [rerun]

November 16th, 2012

Janet had been seeing Aaron for a few weeks, and she knew she couldn’t wait much longer to tell him. They had fallen for each other fast, and it seemed like things would only get better – but how would Aaron react when she told him she was transgender?

UPDATE: A documentary-style version of this story aired on the CBC’s Sunday Edition!

More details and music downloads available in original post.

 

#57: Positive [rerun]

November 2nd, 2012

If you have sex with someone and don’t tell them you’re HIV positive, you can go to jail. You’re only off the hook if you use a condom and have a low viral load, according to last month’s Canadian Supreme Court ruling.

HIV, the judges reasoned, continues to be a serious, life-threatening infection, so exposing others to even a slight risk of transmission without their knowledge should be punishable by law. Opponents fear this will further stigmatize those who are HIV-positive, and say these rules ignore the actual science – that the risk of transmission by those who use a condom or have an undetectable viral load is negligible.

But what about people who’ve been infected through non-disclosure – the victims the law’s supposed to protect?

Jessica Whitbread contracted HIV a decade ago from a boyfriend who’d been dishonest with her. A few years later, he was convicted of aggravated sexual assault for failing to disclose his HIV status to two other women. In this rerun, Jessica shares her story and tells us why she thinks non-disclosure shouldn’t be a crime.

Original post, including music credits.

#80: Born Like a Baby

October 7th, 2012

Lindsay Miller says she wasn’t born gay – she chose it. Why is that a problem for so many people?

To learn more about what “queer by choice” means to Lindsay, you can read her article in the Atlantic  and a more recent article where she explains why “bisexual” doesn’t cover it for her.

Above: JP & Elah as babies. We submit to you that they were not gay or straight babies, though their lifelong love of breasts manifested early.

Music this week by:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.]

  • Jimmy & The Rackets “Black Eyes”
  • Matt Hirt “Jungle Love”
  • Heather Mac Rae “I Choose Love”

#78: Party of One

August 31st, 2012

Michelle hates being single, despite the many benefits. We investigate why.

Pictured above: the Boyfriend Pillow. There was a time, not so long ago, when Elah seriously considered investing in one of these handy little suckers.

I didn’t do the best job of selling the single life, but take a look at “How to Be Alone” by Andrea Dorfman and Tanya Davis. It’ll make you feel full and excited about aloneness.

Music this week:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.]

  • Lillix “Dance Alone”
  • Tim Halperin “I Wanna Fall In Love”

 

#76: Unpretty

August 7th, 2012

Elah’s mom spent most of her life feeling unattractive, but in some ways, it was the best thing that ever happened to her – and in other, more obvious ways, it was the worst.

Music this week:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.]

  • The Weeks “Hold It, Kid
  • Rodriguez “Sugar Man”
  • Pickering Pick “Like A River”

#14: Love Ruins Everything [rerun]

July 21st, 2012

Love is for chumps. This week, we revisit one of our earliest episodes, guest starring JP’s ex and Elah’s stepdad. Sondra tells us how the L word ruined her relationship, and Amos offers his alternative to romantic love.

See the original post for full details and featured music.

 

#74: Love Me Or Leave Me

June 24th, 2012

You’re with someone, they get sick, and you want to end the relationship – should you stay and support them, or is it better to be honest and leave? Someone recently wrote the Ethicist with essentially this question. His answer? Wait it out, at least until your partner is feeling better, more optimistic about his condition.

Alicia Merchant, our guest this week, had a pretty different perspective. She was 23 and in a relationship when she first got cancer, and her partner stayed with her.

There was a lot of interesting stuff that didn’t fit into this week’s episode, so I recommend visiting Alicia’s blog where she writes about her experiences living with cancer: alittlebitworse.wordpress.com

Music this week:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.]

  • Fox in the Henhouse “Fears”
  • Wild Nothing “Golden Haze”

#72: Little Catherine

May 29th, 2012

Catherine was 13 and living in rural New Hampshire when she decided it was time to lose her virginity. And it went great! No, no, it didn’t…

Watch Catherine McCormick’s genius original telling of the story at Toronto’s MothUP (now Raconteurs). You should also look her up @McCormCorp and at her blog, or listen to her Pop Comedy Podcast with Natalie Norman.

Music this week:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.]

  • JReign “Just a Text”
  • Star & Micey “So Much Pain (feat. Luther Dickinson)”
  • Lene Lovich “I Think We’re Alone Now”

 

#70: Dear X

April 28th, 2012

Letters to exes. A big thank you to our contributors Merrin Lazyan, Dave Pickering (of the GBA Podcast), Casey, David, Andy, and anonymous others, as well as Leah for reading.

Music this week:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week’s show.]

  • Amy LaVere – “Stranger Me”
  • Collection Get – “I Know”
  • Marc Ribot – “Delancey Waltz”
  • This Will Destroy You – “Quiet”
  • The Haywards – “The Boy & Girl We Used To Be”

#47: My Biggest Mistake [rerun]

March 30th, 2012

Sage moved across the country to be with a boy she met on the internet. They had spent just four days together. But this was NOT her biggest mistake. Original post with music credits.