All posts by JP

#96: Decisions, Decisions

November 7th, 2013

Samantha Joel studies the psychology of relationship decisions: those frustratingly complex choices that can have lifetime consequences. She tells us what the research has to say about decisions like asking someone out, or moving in with your partner. She tells us how we can harness the power of science to make better decisions, and how she’s putting her money where her mouth is by using research-based wedding vows for her upcoming nuptials.

Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Additional music this week by DanSternofBeyer.

#94: Taming the Monsters

August 16th, 2013

Dr. James Cantor

Dr. James Cantor studies the brains of pedophiles. He’s found statistical similarities among them, things like low IQ and left-handedness – and these similarities seem to indicate that pedophilia is already in the brain at birth. Based on these findings and those of other researchers, he advocates for a shift away from the current punishment-based way of dealing with pedophiles towards a model of prevention and psychological treatment. JP talked to him about his MRI research, “gold-star pedophiles”, and new ways of keeping our kids safe.

Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music by SoundCloud users Skits So Frantic and DanByerofStern.

#93: Mind Your Mind

August 2nd, 2013

Carol Dweck is a professor of psychology at Stanford University, and the author of Mindset. The book aims to help overcome the mental blocks that can stand in the way when it comes to dating, relationships, and more. She provides a lot of valuable advice – and even shares how an imaginary man named Maurice helped her achieve a more harmonious marriage.

Theme music as always by Drew Danburry. Other music this week by Skits So Frantic and DanSternofBeyer.

#91: Modern Dating

June 7th, 2013

This week JP talks with Chiara Atik, the dating expert at HowAboutWe, and the author of Modern Dating: A Field Guide. Chiara shares some great common sense dating tips and provides advice on navigating things like sexting, taking naked pics, and one night stands.

Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Additional music this week by DanSternofBeyer.

#89: Like a Prayer

May 3rd, 2013

This week we talk religion with Ralph Carl Wushke, the Ecumenical Chaplain at the University of Toronto. We aren’t religious ourselves, but we figured Ralph could pass along some dating and relationship wisdom that anyone can apply. We also asked him about marriage, being gay in the church, and um… what “ecumenical” means…

Theme music as always by Drew Danburry. Other music this week by Szai, pocketjawa, jhampton, DJ Junks, and eugenkiss.

#87: Hate Date

March 29th, 2013

Lauren went on a first date, and her date hated everything. Hip-hop, friendly people, her own grandma… everything. This week’s show is a cautionary tale for those who can’t quite seem to put their best foot forward.

Thanks to Andrew Norton for doing this interview for us. Theme music as always by Drew Danburry. Additional music by eugenkiss, Dan Semotan, and Steve Rabulan.

#44: Inside the Bathhouse [rerun]

March 1st, 2013

Picture by Shirin K. A. Winiger (not a bathhouse)

Bathhouse tales from insiders – this week, we get the lowdown from a customer, as well as Peter Bochove, the legendary Toronto entrepreneur. Pull up a seat, and let us regale you with stories of secret plots, lawsuits, the lengths some people will go to for their soup and crackers, and yes, sex too.

Check out the original post for music credits and comments.

#84: Dating By Design

January 31st, 2013

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Ayla Newhouse is a Toronto-based designer who’s looking at dating and relationships through the lens of design – and working to solve relationship problems using the tools of design. She tells us how ethnographic research helped land her a boyfriend, and about how she’s helping others tackle their dating woes.

Ayla is holding a pre-Valentine’s mixer here in Toronto on February 9th, and you can also check out her upcoming online workshop on Skillshare. You can find more about Ayla and the project at Dating by Design, where you can also grab a free PDF of Ayla’s dating canvas. Image above by Ayla Newhouse.

Theme music by Drew Danburry. Other music this week by:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week's show.]

  • Monster Rally “Color Sky”
  • Kishi Bashi “Bright Whites”

#83: Room for Improvement

December 14th, 2012

A conversation with Carlyle Jansen (founder of Good for Her) about how she’s keeping her relationship fresh and fulfilling by re-evaluating it every year. Carlyle incorporated a Celtic handfasting into her wedding ceremony, and in doing so she’s committing to her partner for a year and a day. This means every anniversary is a chance to evaluate how they’re doing, and set goals for the coming year. Can this kind of quasi workplace performance evaluation help a relationship thrive? We think it just might.

This episode was inspired by a talk Carlyle gave at TEDx Toronto. During our conversation Carlyle mentions an article by Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz titled The components of optimal sexuality: a portrait of “great sex”.

Theme music by Drew Danburry, other music this week by:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week's show.]

  • The Cactus Channel “The Colour of Don Don”
  • Delicate Steve “Love”

#81: Return of the Childhood Crush

October 19th, 2012

Konstantine and Salina

Konstantine and Salina met in Grade 1 at Faywood Elementary School in Toronto. By grade 4 Konstantine had developed feelings for Salina, and maintained that crush right through to grade 8. They parted ways and went to different high schools, and different universities – but that’s not where the story ends.

Here’s a video of Konstantine and Salina dancing together, in grade 2:

 

Huge thanks to Konstantine and Salina for sharing their story with us. Theme music, as always, by Drew Danburry. Other music by:

[NOTE: Unfortunately our music provider was acquired by another company, and they no longer offer free mp3 downloads. Below are the tracks used in this week's show.]

  • Maurice and the Beejays “The Further Adventures of our Man Friday”
  • Phantom Blues Band “Mary Ann”
  • Tuatara “Falling Pianos”
  • Anne Garner “Stones (instrumental)”
  • Tycho “Hours”
  • The Cactus Channel “Emanuel Ciccolini”
  • This Will Destroy You “Quiet”
  • This Will Destroy You “Freedom Blade”
  • Jill Barber “Chances”
  • Delicate Steve “Love”