Samantha Joel studies the psychology of relationship decisions: those frustratingly complex choices that can have lifetime consequences. She tells us what the research has to say about decisions like asking someone out, or moving in with your partner. She tells us how we can harness the power of science to make better decisions, and how she’s putting her money where her mouth is by using research-based wedding vows for her upcoming nuptials.
17 years ago, doctors found a benign tumour in John Killacky’s spine. They told him he would be out of the hospital in a few days and have a sore neck for a month, but when he woke up he was paralyzed from the neck down. We speak to John, as well as Andrew Morrison-Gurza, about sex, disability, and feeling wanted.
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Dr. James Cantor studies the brains of pedophiles. He’s found statistical similarities among them, things like low IQ and left-handedness – and these similarities seem to indicate that pedophilia is already in the brain at birth. Based on these findings and those of other researchers, he advocates for a shift away from the current punishment-based way of dealing with pedophiles towards a model of prevention and psychological treatment. JP talked to him about his MRI research, “gold-star pedophiles”, and new ways of keeping our kids safe.
Carol Dweck is a professor of psychology at Stanford University, and the author of Mindset. The book aims to help overcome the mental blocks that can stand in the way when it comes to dating, relationships, and more. She provides a lot of valuable advice – and even shares how an imaginary man named Maurice helped her achieve a more harmonious marriage.
Much to our disappointment, lobsters don’t really mate for life – just a week or two of procreation, and then they move on – but one of the greatest* love stories is happening in grasslands all over the American Midwest and the Canadian Prairies. We talk to Professor Mohamed Kabbaj about his research with prairie voles, and to each other about science’s quest to demystify love.
Music this week:
Heather Mac Rae – I Choose Love
Joan Chamorro and Andrea Motis – Feeling Good
Ella Fitzgerald – Night and Day
*if defined by the relationship lasting a lifetime, a monogamish lifestyle, and an abundance of snuggling
This week JP talks with Chiara Atik, the dating expert at HowAboutWe, and the author of Modern Dating: A Field Guide. Chiara shares some great common sense dating tips and provides advice on navigating things like sexting, taking naked pics, and one night stands.
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This week we talk religion with Ralph Carl Wushke, the Ecumenical Chaplain at the University of Toronto. We aren’t religious ourselves, but we figured Ralph could pass along some dating and relationship wisdom that anyone can apply. We also asked him about marriage, being gay in the church, and um… what “ecumenical” means…
Carol’s boyfriend chose a very bad day to break up with her. We discuss whether it’s okay to be a little bit cruel when you end a relationship. Local girlfriend and snail lover Sonal P. weighs in.
This graph shows break-up frequency over the calendar year, based on Facebook status changes. Seems most people agree Christmas really is a bad time, while Valentine’s Day is kinda okay. Sadly, this can’t tell us if there’s any consensus on the birthday dump. Your thoughts?
Music this week:
“Hang on Little Tomato” by Pink Martini
“Jungle Love” by Matt Hirt
“Baby Baby I Should Have Known” by Jimmy & The Rackets
Image by Photochiel, creative commons, on Flickr.
Lauren went on a first date, and her date hated everything. Hip-hop, friendly people, her own grandma… everything. This week’s show is a cautionary tale for those who can’t quite seem to put their best foot forward.